CoupleHood in SG the island

Chatting with my galfriend over msn after lunch. And she pop me the question ...
"Did when overseas with ur bf and did ur parents mind?"
She highlighted that some of her pals were concern over gossips if travel alone with partner hence bring parents along.

For ME...couplehood in SG is tough tough tough.
It not sooo relax and so in the mood like the ones you see in movies or TVs.
But the bottom line to this couplehood is "GOSSIP" and the "UNSPOKEN DISSAPPROVAL" parents may have.

I cannot deny that SG is still mainly a conservative family breeding ground. Being traditional has its good value. But some rules has to BENT. Of cos...the "GOSSIP" & " UNSPOKEN DISSAPPROVAL" does pin point to ONE issue..which is SEX.

Parents offend are worried..(esp for gals being cheated or getting pregnant) ... and they always feel you are just a child in their heart. No matter how old one have become, this never change which is good. Since it is the nature’s way of bonding parent and child. But I feel its also the up-bringing of the children in our society.

Traditional Concept is the first gun down. As mainly chinese or any of the enthic races are more reserve then Westerners. As Asians, we may not be able to practice that "giving freedom" or "choice" the our children as easily due those traditional principals & pride. But such did wear down a little over the years..however not enough to know when to stop, even the child is in adulthood.

Lack of Privacy is the 2nd factor. Majority stayed with parents in HDB and more often only until they get married then they moved out. This also induces the lack of privacy a young adult can have. Worst if they had to share rooms with siblings. Becos the lack of power to live on their own. One have to bow down to the rules of the roof they have over their heads.

Trust may be the final factor. Parents don't trust their children enough. So whats so disapproving about going overseas with they bf / gf alone ? Or it is more about the sex issue ? If one has given the child the correct mindset during their up-bringing, why disapprove. Normal & healthy young adult have to right mind to think and act accordingly. They can't bring you to holiday if you kept your watchful eyes on them, how can they enjoy it. Not forgetting, if sex was meant to happen, regardless going in a group or going alone or going with gf/bf. It will HAPPEN !!! So whats there to GOSSIP.

Parents should also be given a chance to learn how to let go once your children are adults. A part of entering adulthood is the package of responsibilties, integritiy & judgement. As parents, one can only education so much, young birds do have to fly on their own to avoid the winter. Hence relax ....wat gossip can come about if your kid has been good and not done wrong. ^_^

PS : Parents were also once young, so parents please RECALL, times have changed!!!

Dedicate to parents, hope i made sense .